Do you ever feel like you've tried everything and "nothing works" for you?
I know I sure have. Not in every area of my life but definitely in some. For example, I've spent thousands of dollars on personal development courses and material over the years - all in hopes that "something" might cure a particular issue or problem in my life.
Did any of this material help? Absolutely it did. I consider everything I've learned to be a stepping stone towards greater awareness and success.
That said, why are there areas of life that still don't seem to work for people?
That's a question I and many others have spent a great deal of time trying to find an answer to. Eventually after studying people and myself, I've discovered what it is.
People who say or believe "nothing works for them," share two key characteristics. These characteristics are also very common to people who seem to always have a difficult time in life.
Here they are:
Number One: In order to take control of what you create in life - whether it be to stop creating outcomes you don't want or to start creating outcomes you prefer - you must be willing to acknowledge that YOU are creating what's happening to you.
This isn't something you are doing on purpose or intentionally. This isn't your fault and you're not to blame for it. You aren't even doing it consciously. But still, what's happening is coming from you.
Those who say (including me in the past) "nothing works" are under the impression that the negative outcomes they experience either "just happen" (by some sort of bad luck) to them or are the fault of someone else.
Other than a certain number of random events and few things biologically programmed into us (death for example), you create what happens to you. You do this by focusing your mind in certain ways.
This might be a tough pill to swallow at first. Yet, if you want to master what happens to you, you MUST acknowledge that what happens to you is coming from you - even if you don't see how.
Number Two: Every person who's having a difficult time in life, chronically focuses their attention on what they do not what. What you focus on is key to everything. The mind is powerful and will create or attract what you focus on in one way or another.
Once again, most people don't focus intentionally. Instead their minds are running on automatic - focusing in whatever way it was programmed to focus during childhood. If you experienced some sort of trauma in a certain area of your life, your mind is set up in a way to focus alot on that trauma - mainly to avoid it.
Yet, the irony is, the more you focus on something, the more it shows up in your life. Therefore, if you're focusing on what you want to avoid, you'll get more of it. Once you learn how to focus your mind intentionally and consciously on what you want, you'll attract or create it.
So, how can you begin to intentionally start focusing on what you want?
One of the most effective ways I know of to start shifting your focus towards what you want is to ask yourself questions.
Why?
Well for starters, when we are asked a question, our mind searches for the answer. So, if you ask yourself how you can get what you want, your mind automatically starts looking for an answer to that question - all the while focusing on what you want.
As it searches for the answer, it begins to imagine the outcome you want. It creates the pictures, the feelings, and the thoughts that are congruent with what you want.
If you don't get an answer to your question right away - that's ok. This exercise isn't so much about finding an answer as it is about getting your mind to start focusing in the direction you want. Answers are just icing on the cake.
The other way you can start focusing on what you don't want is to pay attention to your feelings.
Whenever you have a negative feeling of any sort - take notice of what thoughts or pictures created the feeling. Then, say to yourself "ok, that is what I don't want and it's making me feel bad." "What would I prefer instead of that?"
In this way, you'll begin using the things you don't want as a springboard towards what you do want.
Here's a quick example.
Let's say you notice you're worried. You look inside to see what thoughts and images in your mind are causing this worry.
You notice you've been thinking (automatically) about all the bills you have to pay. You obviously don't want bills so it's causing you to feel worried or stressed. Any time you feel bad it's because you're focused on what you don't want.
In that moment, you consciously choose to say to yourself "Ok, I don't want these bills. What would I prefer instead?" This will get your mind thinking about what you do want and you"ll instantly notice the negative feeling start to lessen and - more often than not - be replace by more desireable feelings.
I've also found it helps to state what you do want out loud and with some emphasis behind it. This causes your subconscious mind to perk up and pay attention.
These are two of the most effective ways I've ever discovered to change your focus to what you don't want. The best part about them is they are really easy to do. You can master these two techniques with a matter of days.
By Brandon J Jones
I know I sure have. Not in every area of my life but definitely in some. For example, I've spent thousands of dollars on personal development courses and material over the years - all in hopes that "something" might cure a particular issue or problem in my life.
Did any of this material help? Absolutely it did. I consider everything I've learned to be a stepping stone towards greater awareness and success.
That said, why are there areas of life that still don't seem to work for people?
That's a question I and many others have spent a great deal of time trying to find an answer to. Eventually after studying people and myself, I've discovered what it is.
People who say or believe "nothing works for them," share two key characteristics. These characteristics are also very common to people who seem to always have a difficult time in life.
Here they are:
Number One: In order to take control of what you create in life - whether it be to stop creating outcomes you don't want or to start creating outcomes you prefer - you must be willing to acknowledge that YOU are creating what's happening to you.
This isn't something you are doing on purpose or intentionally. This isn't your fault and you're not to blame for it. You aren't even doing it consciously. But still, what's happening is coming from you.
Those who say (including me in the past) "nothing works" are under the impression that the negative outcomes they experience either "just happen" (by some sort of bad luck) to them or are the fault of someone else.
Other than a certain number of random events and few things biologically programmed into us (death for example), you create what happens to you. You do this by focusing your mind in certain ways.
This might be a tough pill to swallow at first. Yet, if you want to master what happens to you, you MUST acknowledge that what happens to you is coming from you - even if you don't see how.
Number Two: Every person who's having a difficult time in life, chronically focuses their attention on what they do not what. What you focus on is key to everything. The mind is powerful and will create or attract what you focus on in one way or another.
Once again, most people don't focus intentionally. Instead their minds are running on automatic - focusing in whatever way it was programmed to focus during childhood. If you experienced some sort of trauma in a certain area of your life, your mind is set up in a way to focus alot on that trauma - mainly to avoid it.
Yet, the irony is, the more you focus on something, the more it shows up in your life. Therefore, if you're focusing on what you want to avoid, you'll get more of it. Once you learn how to focus your mind intentionally and consciously on what you want, you'll attract or create it.
So, how can you begin to intentionally start focusing on what you want?
One of the most effective ways I know of to start shifting your focus towards what you want is to ask yourself questions.
Why?
Well for starters, when we are asked a question, our mind searches for the answer. So, if you ask yourself how you can get what you want, your mind automatically starts looking for an answer to that question - all the while focusing on what you want.
As it searches for the answer, it begins to imagine the outcome you want. It creates the pictures, the feelings, and the thoughts that are congruent with what you want.
If you don't get an answer to your question right away - that's ok. This exercise isn't so much about finding an answer as it is about getting your mind to start focusing in the direction you want. Answers are just icing on the cake.
The other way you can start focusing on what you don't want is to pay attention to your feelings.
Whenever you have a negative feeling of any sort - take notice of what thoughts or pictures created the feeling. Then, say to yourself "ok, that is what I don't want and it's making me feel bad." "What would I prefer instead of that?"
In this way, you'll begin using the things you don't want as a springboard towards what you do want.
Here's a quick example.
Let's say you notice you're worried. You look inside to see what thoughts and images in your mind are causing this worry.
You notice you've been thinking (automatically) about all the bills you have to pay. You obviously don't want bills so it's causing you to feel worried or stressed. Any time you feel bad it's because you're focused on what you don't want.
In that moment, you consciously choose to say to yourself "Ok, I don't want these bills. What would I prefer instead?" This will get your mind thinking about what you do want and you"ll instantly notice the negative feeling start to lessen and - more often than not - be replace by more desireable feelings.
I've also found it helps to state what you do want out loud and with some emphasis behind it. This causes your subconscious mind to perk up and pay attention.
These are two of the most effective ways I've ever discovered to change your focus to what you don't want. The best part about them is they are really easy to do. You can master these two techniques with a matter of days.
By Brandon J Jones
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